Couples' Interactions and Withdrawal of Women from Sexual Commitment: A study in Tehran

Authors

1 Professor in Sociology & Cultural Studies, Faculty of Social Sciences, Allameh Tabataba'i University, Tehran, Iran

2 Ph. D. Student of Social Problems of Iran, Azad University Research Science Unit, Tehran, Iran

Abstract
Carelessness and lack of commitment in marital relations is one of the important causes of disruption and damage in the family center. This research, with an interpretive perspective, seeks to analyze the contexts and processes on the basis of which critical marital relationships end in the withdrawal of married women from sexual commitment. The theme analysis of the interviews conducted with eleven women with the experience of infidelity in marital sex in Tehran showed: Deprivation of choice (child marriage), domestic violence (verbal, physical and sexual, depriving the necessities of life), The quality of sex (different sexual orientation, deprivation of sex, husband's addiction to masturbation),Avoid playing male roles(drug addiction, long-term financial crises),Reaction to the husband's behavior (restoring a sense of worth, reciprocal response to the husband's betrayal) In three overarching themes (Ownership of life and women's bodies, patriarchal culture, and women's efforts for more effective agency) it is of the most important areas leading women to abandon marital fidelity. Women's departure from this commitment is mainly related to unstable family conditions and various types of violence from the husband.

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